This week I’d like to share how to look for and recognize opportunities to share Him, when they are packaged in normally uncomfortable or possibly unremarkable events.

Hierdie week sal ek daarvan hou om uit te kyk geleenthede te herken om Hom te deel, wanneer hulle in normale ongemaklike of moontlik onopvallende gebeurtenisse verpak is.

I was reading a recently submitted LL journal and in it His bride said, “Lately, I have had multiple people in my life commenting that I need to "get out there." I need to "find someone new.. Often these are mere acquaintances who find out I'm divorced, but not dating. It flabbergasts me that people would talk that way. Especially because even from a worldly point of view the odds of a 62 year old woman finding a good and decent man (who isn't sick and 82) is remote. I don't expect them to understand my view on remarriage, but why can't they at least see that the odds are not in an older woman's favor?!

Ek het onlangs ‘n LL joernaal gelees en in dit het Sy bruid gesê, Onlangs, het ek multipel mense in my lewe gehad wat gekommentaar het dat ek moet “uitgaan.” en dat ek nodig het om “iemand nuut te vind”. Dikwels is hierdie maar net kennisse wat uitvind dat ek geskei is, maar nie “uitgaan” nie. Dit gaan my verstand te bowe dat mense so sou praat. Spesiaal dat selfs van ‘n wêreldse standpunt die kanse dat ‘n 62 jarige ou vrou ‘n goeie en ordentlike man (wat nie siek en 82 is nie) sal vind skaars is. Ek verwag nie dat hulle my standpunt oor hertrou moet verstaan nie, maar waarom kan hulle ten minste nie sien dat die kans nie in ‘n ouer vrou se guns is nie?! 

“ As I ponder, I see that all they can see is that I am ALONE. If I explain that I am happy, they can't believe me.  I've been asking my Heavenly Love to lead me to know how to best speak of Him. My attempts with acquaintances often have them jumping to "Oh....you are religious," assuming I have lots of rules and rituals.   It's an odd sort of thing, because most of these acquaintances are male--painters, construction workers. handymen. They know I am divorced, because they know I live alone and I am the one paying them. I am around them for hours at a time, in my home, yet I am discreet and quiet (unlike my normal chattiness); they are all married--they are not "making moves" on me or being rude. I believe their intentions are kind. I have the feeling that they are sort of intrigued...by my quietness, happiness and "aloneness."  So, I am pondering these things, as I ask Him to lead me.”

“Soos wat ek nadink, kan ek sien dat al wat hulle sien is dat ek ALLEEN is. As ek verduidelik dat ek  gelukkig is, kan hulle my nie glo nie. Ek het my Hemelse Liefde gevra om my te lei om te weet hoe om die beste oor Hom te praat. My pogings met kennisse laat hulle spring tot “O...jy is godsdienstig,” en neem aan dat ek baie reëls en rituele het. Dit is ‘n snaakse soort ding, omdat meeste van hierdie kennisse is manlike--verwers, konstruksie werkers. Nutsmanne. Hulle weet ek is geskei, want hulle weet ek bly alleen en ek is die een wat hulle betaal. Ek is rondom hulle vir ure op ‘n slag, in my huis, tog is ek diskreet en stil (anders as my normale praaterig); hulle is almal getroud--hulle “lê nie by my aan” of is ongeskik nie. Ek glo hulle bedoelings is vriendelik. Ek kry die gevoel dat hulle soortvan geïntegreerd is… deur my stilligheid, geluk en “alleenheid.” So, ek dink na oor hierdie dinge, en vra Hom om my te lei.”    

Reading this, of course, I can relate. Yet, how He's led me is to use each of these as opportunities—each leading me to say something entirely different—each leaving me in awe and even more thankful I am only HIS!

Deur dit te lees, kan ek natuurlik oorvertel. Tog, hoe Hy my gelei het om elke een van hierdie as geleenthede te gebruik—elkeen wat my lei om iets anders te sê—elkeen wat my in verwondering los en selfs meer dankbaar dat ek net SYNE is!

The most recent is when my leased water cooler wasn't working. I got very excited once I was led to call—often my HH just fixes things, like when I got a strange alert on the dashboard of my car. Let me share about this first.

Die mees onlangs was toe my verhuurde waterverkoeler nie gewerk het nie. Ek het baie opgewonde geraak tot ek gelei was om te skakel—dikwels maak my HM net dinge reg, soos toe ek  ‘n vreemde alarmsein op die paneelbord van my motor gekry het. Laat my eers oor dit deel.

My son was with me when this strange alert popped up on my car’s dashboard. Immediately my son began Googling it as we drove. He began reading several things this could mean, bottom line—take it to your mechanic asap!! I also noticed some things on the car stopped working, like my cruise control. After my son got out of my car and into his car, I had time to calmly discuss it with my HH, my Darling. After talking it out with Him (isn’t He just the best listener?!?  He never

My seun was saam my toe hierdie vreemde alarmsein op my paneelbord verskyn het. Onmiddellik het my seun begin Google soos wat ons gery het. Hy het verskeie dinge gelees wat dit kon beteken, punt is—neem dit so  gou as moontlik na jou motor deskundige toe!! Ek het ook agter gekom dat van die dinge aan die motor opgehou het om te werk, soos my spoedbeheer. Nadat my seun uit my motor geklim het  en in sy motor, het ek tyd gehad om dit kalm met my HM te bespreek, my Liefling. Nadat ek dit met Hom uitgepraat het (is Hy nie net die beste luisteraar nie/!? Hy sal

interrupts  After I was trying to figure out where to go, after He led me to look it up in my car's manual and the manual said it was indeed a problem needing a certified “specific type” of mechanic! Exasperated I finally said, "Honey, just fix it please."

onderbreek nie. Nadat ek probeer het om uit te pluis waar om te gaan, nadat Hy my gelei het om dit in my motor se handleiding op te soek en die handleiding het gesê dat dit ‘n probleem was wat ‘n gesertifiseerde “spesiale soort” motordeskundige nodig sal hê! Ontstoke het ek uiteindelik gesê, “Soetlief, maak dit asseblief reg.”

Of course, you know that's just what happened—HE just fixed it! I’d let it go and  almost forgot about it after asking Him to “just fix it”, but then He reminded me not only was the alert gone, but my cruise control worked perfectly—of course!! I called my son to tell him, “Guess what? I went to the Best Mechanic, my HH, who is not just my Physician, Provider, etc. etc. etc. I didn’t need to wait for the car to be serviced, He just did it, and of course the price was FREE!”

Natuurlik, weet jy dit is net wat gebeur het—HY het dit reggemaak! Ek het dit laat gaan en het amper daarvan vergeet nadat ek Hom gevra het om dit “net reg te maak”, maar toe herinner Hy my dat nie net was die alarmsein weg nie, maar my spoedbeheer het perfek gewerk—natuurlik!! Ek het my seun geskakel om vir hom te sê, “Raai wat? Ek het na die Beste Motordeskundige toe gegaan, my HM, wie nie net my Geneesheer, Voorsiener, ens. ens. ens. is nie. Ek het nie nodig gehad om te wag vir die motor om gediens te word nie, Hy het dit net gedoen, en natuurlik was die prys VERNIET!”

Back to my watercooler, which was another opportunity I took full advantage of. When I called, they told me someone would be out to bring me a new cooler, Ha-ha, already blessings were pouring out (remember when you tithe this principle in Luke 6:38 is always working behind the scenes \o/). When the young man came in with the new watercooler, I am telling you honestly—I have no idea how the conversation led to him asking me about my husband. When He asked, I replied enthusiastically, "Oh, I'm divorced, my husband left me for his girlfriend" and he replied, "Oh NO, I am soooo sorry that's horrible!!" I replied, "Oh, not at all. I am so happy for them both, now I have the best life ever!"

Terug na my waterverkoeler, wat nog ‘n geleentheid was wat ek ten volle voordeel uit getrek het. Toe ek geskakel het, het hulle vir my gesê iemand sal uitkom om vir my ‘n nuwe verkoeler te bring, Ha-ha, alreeds het seëninge uitgestort (onthou wanneer jy jou tiende gee die beginsel in Lukas 6:38 werk altyd agter die skerms /o\ ). Toe die jong man ingekom het met die nuwe waterverkoeler, ek sê eerlik vir jou—ek het geen idee gehad hoe die gesprek hom gelei het om oor my man uit te vra nie. Toe hy my gevra het het ek entoesiasties geantwoord, “O, ek is geskei, my man het my vir sy meisie gelos” en hy het geantwoord, “O NEE, ek is soooo jammer dit is verskriklik!!” ek het geantwoord, “O, glad nie. Ek is so bly vir hulle albei, nou het ek die beste lewe ooit!”                                                                                                                                  

"I am happy all the time, I am free to bless my children financially, I can live wherever God leads me, I work from home and I plan to never retire because I love what I do so much! I am so thankful for all the Lord has brought me through. It led to ministering to other women, women who have been left by their husbands, to know He cares and will take care of them—just like He takes care of me! We encourage these women not being needy and vulnerable, which protects these sweet women from being hurt further."

“Ek is die hele tyd gelukkig, ek is vry om my kinders finansieël te seën, ek kan bly waarookal God my lei, ek werk van die huis af en ek beplan om nooit af te tree nie omdat ek baie lief is vir wat ek doen! Ek is so dankbaar vir alles wat die Here my deur gebring het. Dit het gelei tot die bediening aan ander vrouens, vrouens wat deur hulle mans gelos is, om te weet dat Hy omgee en na hulle sal omsien—net soos wat Hy na my omsien! Ons moedig hierdie vrouens aan om nie behoeftig en kwesbaar te wees nie, wat hierdie dierbare vrouens beskerm om verder seer te kry.” 

After I blurted all that out, he asked me dozens of questions. For more than an hour he asked me about every subject you can imagine. He told me about his wife, his family, and shook my hand for several minutes when he was leaving, thanking me over and over again.

Nadat ek dit alles uitgeblaker het, het hy my dosyne vrae gevra. Vir meer as ‘n uur het hy my uitgevra oor elke onderwerp wat jy jou kan voorstel. Hy het my van sy vrou vertel, sy familie, en hy het my hand etlike kere geskud terwyl hy oppad was, en het my oor en oor bedank.

Dear brides, you and I know only GOD could orchestrate these sorts of opportunities, which happen all the time, most often in the midst of mini or larger crises. You just have to watch for them.  This is when most believers (and a few brides) miss the opportunity. Never forget—awkward moments or when something breaks is God sending us gifts—wrapped in a pretty bow, tagged “Opportunities!!”,

Liewe bruide, jy en ek weet net GOD kan hierdie soort geleenthede  orkestreer, wat die heel tyd gebeur, meer dikwels in die middel van ‘n klein of groter krisisse. Jy moet vir hulle uitkyk. Dit is wanneer meeste gelowiges (en ‘n paar bruide) die geleentheid mis. Moet nooit vergeet nie—ongemaklike oomblikke of wanneer iets breek is God wat vir ons geskenke stuur—toegedraai in ‘n mooi strik, gemerk “Geleenthede”