Two weeks ago I ended my message by hoping that you would each experience (again or for the first time) unbridled joy as a lovesick bride. Claiming this verse as your own, “My Beloved is mine, and I am His” “For I am lovesick.” Song of Solomon 5:8, 2:16 

Twee weke gelede het ek my boodskap beëindig deur te hoop dat jy (weer of vir die eerste keer) onbeteuelde vrede as Sy smoor verliefde bruid sou ervaar. En hierdie vers as jou eie eis, “ “Ek behoort aan die man wat ek liefhet, en die man wat ek liefhet is myne” “die liefde verteer my.” Hooglied 6:3, 5:8. 

Darling bride, were you able to overcome the temptation of being deceived by the tempter? Have you remained under your HH? Being lovesick is, as I said, where I long to remain.?  

Liefling bruid, was jy in staat om die versoeking te oorkom om bedrieg te word deur die versoeker? Het jy onder jou HM gebly Om smoorverlief te wees is, soos ek gesê het, waar ek hunker om te bly.? 

Without the joy in my heart, there is no doubt that the “glow” or the “beauty” others comment on, (that has nothing to do with my looks but Whose face I am reflecting)— that the opposite most certainly will occur— when you give in to temptation after looking too long on a lie. If I chose to look at and focus on lies, instead of focusing on His face, I would without any doubt be left with a countenance fallen, which is what I want to share in this week’s message.

Sonder die vreugde in my hart, is daar geen twyfel dat die “straal” of die “skoonheid” waarop ander kommentaar lewer, (wat niks te doen het met my voorkoms nie maar Wie se gesig ek weerkaats)—dat die teenoorgestelde heel sekerlik sal plaasvind—wanneer jy vir die versoeking ingee nadat jy te lank na ‘n leuen gekyk het. As ek verkies om te kyk of te fokus op leuens, in plaas daarvan om op Sy gesig te fokus, sal ek sonder twyfel ‘n bedrukte voorkoms hê, wat is wat ek in hierdie week se boodskap wil deel.

Going back to the Bible in Genesis 3, after the woman was deceived and the husband willingly sinned, we know they are banished from the Garden. The fellowship they once had with God is gone, and it’s reflected immediately in the relationship between the man and his wife (which is the first time man blames God and his wife for his sin).

Om terug te gaan na die Bybel in Genesis 3, na die vrou bedrieg was en die man gewillig gesondig het, weet ons dat hulle uit die Tuin verban is. Die fellowship wat hulle eens op ‘n tyd met God gehad is weg, en dit is onmiddellik weerkaats in die verhouding tussen die man en sy vrou (wat die eerste keer is wat die man God en sy vrou blameer vir sy sonde).

Then sadly, this lack of relationship they had in the Garden with God, when they roamed with Him, is passed onto their children, their sons. Soon after in Genesis 4 we see God calling attention to the countenance that has fallen in Cain and, as we know, the warning He gave wasn’t followed. Yet, I am confident that each of us needs to realize the wisdom in God’s warning and heed it. A countenance that has fallen, due to our faces reflecting our hearts, will lead to sin. Sin committed.

Dan droewig, word die tekort aan verhouding, wat hulle met God in die Tuin ghad het, oorgee aan hulle kinders, hulle seuns. Gou daarna in Genesis 4 sien ons dat God kommentaar lewer oor Kain se bedrukte voorkoms, en soos ons weet, die waarskuwing wat Hy gegee het was nie opgevolg nie. Tog, ek vertrou dat elkeen van ons behoort die wysheid in God se waarskuwing te besef en notisie neem daarvan. ‘n Bedrukte voorkoms, omdat ons gesigte ons harte weerkaats, sal lei tot sonde. Sonde gepleeg.   

This is something I trained my children to do. I would never allow bad attitudes or a face that reflected anything that needed to be dealt with in their hearts. Thankfully they’ve each benefitted from this training and have thanked me as have their spouses.  A bad attitude means a heart that is not right. Don’t allow this in yourself or your children. Forgiving will get rid of anger.

Dit is iets wat ek my kinders opgelei het om te doen. Ek het nooit toegelaat dat slegte houdings of ‘n gesig wat enigiets wat in hulle harte was weerkaats het nie. Dankbaar het hulle elkeen voordeel getrek uit hierdie opleiding en het hulle en hulle gades my bedank. ‘n Slegte houding beteken ‘n hart wat nie reg is nie. Moet dit nie in jouself of jou kinders toelaat nie. Vergiffenis sal ontslae raak van woede. 

Let me also explain that sin is different than a mere transgression as we’ve learned in “Therefore, to him who knows the right thing to do, and does not do it, to him it is sin” (James 4:17).

Laat my ook verduidelik dat sonde anders is as ‘n blote oortreding soos wat ons geleer het “As iemand weet wat die regte ding is om te doen en hy doen dit nie, is dit sonde” (Jakobus 4:17).

Many of us may have missed really “seeing” or noticing when our husbands lost the love in their hearts—when someone may have pointed out the dripping faucet of our contentiousness. Or maybe we did notice their frustration was reflected in their countenance, but did nothing about it, but instead, dug in our contentious heels. However, this “look” of frustration and discontentedness is what I believe the adulteress woman is looking for, in order to pounce and the allure her victim to the pit the man has no idea he’s about to fall into.

Baie van ons het gemis om regtig te “sien” of agter te kom toe ons mans die liefde in hulle harte verloor het—as iemand dalk die druppende kraan uitgewys het of ons twisgierigheid. Of miskien het ons die frustrasie agter gekom wat uit  hulle gesigte weerstraal het, maar het niks daaromtrent gedoen nie, en in plaas daarvan ons twisgierige hakke ingegrawe. Nietemin, hierdie “blik” van frustrasie en ontevredenheid is wat ek glo die owerspelige vrou soek, om op haar slagoffer te spring en na die put toe te lok wat hy geen idee het hy op die punt staan om in te val nie.  

But what about us?

Maar wat van ons?

Are we immune to also falling into despair; falling into sin? Do you know that many women who seek restoration for their marriages also succumb to lies from the enemy, from family and friends, that their marriage is “somehow” impossible when God’s Word states clearly that nothing is impossible with Him?

Is ons immuun daarteen om ook in wanhoop te val; in sonde te val? Weet jy dat baie vrouens wat herstel soek vir hulle huwelike ook geswig het voor die leuens van die vyand,  van familie en vriende, dat hulle huwelike “op een of ander manier” onmoontlik is wanneer God se Woord duidelik stel dat niks onmoontlik met Hom is nie?  

I’ve personally known several dear sweet friends who’ve given into believing the “little lies” that began when they “Peeked Out” and “Opened the Door.” When instead of “Sleeping in the Storms” they remained on the deck staring at and fearing the waves as they crashed over them. Never forget that “Eve Was Deceived” and that we are just as or even more vulnerable. I never want to realize that my “Eyes were Open” to the hopelessness that could leave me easy prey to marrying again, finding myself again as an adulteress or any number of sins that happen to “Christians” and especially to leaders who the enemy is most aiming to destroy.

Ek het persoonlik verskeie liewe goedhartige vriende geken wat ingegee het om “die “klein leuens” te glo wat begin het toe hulle “Uitgeloer Het” en die “Deur Oopgemaak” het. Wanneer hulle in plaas daarvan om “in die Storms te Slaap” het hulle op die dek gestaan en na die golwe gestaar en gevrees soos wat hulle oor hulle gebreek het. Moet nooit vergeet dat “Eva Was Bedrieg” en dat ons net so of selfs meer kwesbaar is.  Ek wil nooit  besef dat my “Oë Nie Oop was Nie” vir die hopeloosheid wat my maklik ‘n prooi kan los om weer te trou, en myself weer ‘n owerspeelster los of enige nommer van sondes wat met “Christene” gebeur en spesiaal met leiers wie die vyand die meeste op mik om te vernietig.    

Each day, throughout the day, moment by moment I am speaking to my HH in my heart. Whether it’s simply what to wear, what to have for breakfast or when it’s a decision I need to make or a problem I need solved—remaining close and continually being  “in-love” will not just prevent a countenance from falling—but will allow our faces to GLOW reflecting His love to everyone!!  

Elke dag, en gedurende die dag, oomblik by oomblik praat ek met my HM in my hart. Of dit eenvoudig is wat om aan te trek, wat om vir ontbyt te hê of wanneer dit ‘n besluit is wat ek moet maak of 'n probleem wat opgloes moet word—om naby te bly en gedurig “verlief” te wees sal nie net ‘n bedrukte voorkoms voorkom nie—maar sal toelaat dat ons gesigte STRAAL en Sy liefde aan almal weerkaats!!  

This week check your countenance. Are your eyes still as bright, your smile just as wide, the tone of your voice just as cheerful as the day you realized you had a HH who loved you despite what others said or saw in you? If it has all fallen or even diminished, I would urge you to begin remembering the days prior to meeting Him intimately and then counting each and every blessing. Do it throughout the day. Count them when you go to sleep and count them again when you wake up. Then look at the face you see in the mirror.

Gaan hierdie week jou voorkoms na. Is jou oë nog steeds so helder, jou glimlag net so wyd, die toon van jou stem net so opgeruimd soos die dag wat jy besef het dat jy ‘n HM het wat lief vir jou is ten spyte wat ander gesê het of in jou gesien het? As dit bedruk is of afgeneem het, sal ek jou aandring om die dae te begin onthou voor ons Hom intiem ontmoet het en dan ieder en elke seëning te tel. Doen dit dwarsdeur die dag. Tel hulle wanneer jy gaan slaap en tel hulle weer wanneer jy wakker word. Kyk dan na die gesig wat jy in die spieël sien.