Dag 19 God se Vernuwing

Day 19 God's Makeover

Dag 19 God se Vernuwing

but first a powerful Restored Marriage Testimony

maar eers ‘n kragtige Herstelde Huwelik Getuienis

"My Victory!"

“My Oorwinning!”

My problems began when I started suspecting my husband was in adultery. I was not sure but he had changed. So like all women I started going through his stuff to see what I could find. One day he came home drunk and I managed to get hold of his cell phone. That’s where I found the truth. My whole world came crashing down. I didn’t know what to do. I talked to my friends who, as usual, told me to confront him, and I was a fool and did whatever I was told by someone who didn't know what the right thing was to do.

My probleme het begin toe ek vermoed het dat my man by owerspel betrokke was. Ek was nie seker nie maar hy het verander. So soos alle vrouens het ek begin om deur sy goed te gaan om te sien wat ek kon vind. Een dag het hy dronk by die huis gekom en ek het dit reggekry om sy selfoon in die hande te kry. Dit is waar ek die waarheid gevind het. My hele wêreld het om my ineengestort. Ek het nie geweet wat om te doen nie. Ek het met my vriende gepraat wie, soos gewoonlik, my vertel het om hom te konfronteer, en ek was ‘n dwaas en het gedoen wat ookal dit is wat iemand wat nie weet wat die regte ding is om te doen gedoen. 

I confronted him and that’s when all hell broke loose. He told me he was seeing this woman and no one or anything would stop him because she was pregnant with his child. I didn’t stop there. I then foolishly went and told his parents but nothing changed.

Ek het hom konfronteer en dit is toe die hel los gebreek het. Hy het vir my gesê dat hy besig is om die vrou te sien en niemand of enige iets sal hom keer nie omdat sy was swanger met sy kind. Dit het nie daar gestop nie. Ek het toe soos ‘n dwaas vir sy ouers vertel maar niks het verander nie.

My situation got worse. He moved out and started living with OW. He told me I could tell whoever I wanted but no one would help me. That’s when I came to my senses and remembered that actually there was Someone I could tell and He would help. I turned to God and asked Him for help.

My situasie het erger geword. Hy het uitgetrek en saam die AV begin bly. Hy het vir my gesê ek kon vir wie ookal ek wou daarvan vertel maar  niemand wou my help nie. Dit is toe dat ek tot besinning gebring is en onthou het dat daar eintlik Iemand is vir wie ek kon vertel en Hy sou my help. Ek het na God toe gekeer en Hom gevra vir hulp. 

I started reading the Bible and praying for God’s guidance. I felt at peace in my heart though it was broken. One day I was on a bus going home from work and there was this lady holding some papers. The heading was praying scriptures for your marriage. I got eager to know what it was and the next day I went to the Internet and Googled the heading. I found so many websites about marriage restoration.

Ek het die Bybel begin lees en vir God gebid vir leiding. Ek het ‘n vrede in my hart gevoel alhoewel dit gebreek was. Een dag was ek op ‘n bus oppad huistoe van die werk af en daar was ‘n dame wat gesit het en papiere vasgehou het. Die hoof titel was om bybel gebede vir jou huwelik te bid. Ek het ywerig geraak om te weet wat dit was en die volgende dag het ek op die Internet gegaan en die hoof titel gegoogle. Ek het so baie webtuistes oor huwelik herstel gevind. 

That is where I found YOU! I found out about the RYM book. I read the book and even before I could finish the first chapter I saw what kind of a wife I was. I knelt down before the computer and asked God to forgive me and asked Him to give me another chance in my marriage. I started applying the principles in the book and I felt that the time was coming for my victory. I didn’t care whether the OW was pregnant or not but I knew my victory would come in handy. I used to pray and cry, but this time, I was crying to my God for His mercies.

Dit is waar ek JOU gevind het! Ek het oor die HJH boek uitgevind. Ek het die boek gelees en selfs voor ek die eerste hoofstuk kon klaar lees het het ek gesien watter soort vrou ek was. Ek het voor die rekenaar gekniel en God gevra om my nog ‘n kans in my huwelik te gee. Ek het die beginsels in die boek begin toepas en het gevoel dat die tyd sou kom vir my oorwinning. Ek het nie omgegee of die AV swanger was of nie maar ek het geweet dat my oorwinning handig te pas sou kom. Ek het gebid en gehuil, maar hierdie keer, het ek by God gehuil vir Sy genade. 

One month had passed since my husband moved out. He used to come home while I was at work to see the children but all this while I had not seen or talked to him because he told me not to call him. I obeyed like the RYM book says. I kept telling God that I needed to see my husband so he could see the changes in me.

Een maand het verby gegaan sedert my man uitgetrek het. Hy het huistoe gekom terwyl ek by die werk was om die kinders te kom sien en in al hierdie tyd het ek hom nie gesien of met hom gepraat nie. Ek het gehoorsaam net soos die HJH boek sê. Ek het aanhou om vir God te sê dat ek my man moes sien sodat hy die veranderinge in my kon sien.

One Sunday morning God remembered me. I received a call from my husband. He wanted to know if I was at home because he wanted to come and pick some of his stuff from the house. I started praising God for I knew it was His plan. I knew it was His plan because my husband would always come in the house during the day and pick up whatever he wanted when we weren't home, but this time he wanted to come while I was at home. PTL!

Een Sondag oggend het God van my onthou. Ek het ‘n oproep van my man ontvang. Hy wou geweet het of ek by die huis was omdat hy wou kom en van sy goed by die huis optel. Ek het God begin loof omdat ek het geweet dit was Sy plan. Ek het geweet dit was Sy plan omdat my man altyd gedurende die dag gekom het en opgetel het wat hy wou terwyl ons nie by die huis was nie, maar hierdie keer wou hy kom terwyl ek by die huis was. PDH!

The reason he came however was because he had lost his job. He wanted me to loan him some money (which I did because as you taught us, we were still married and that is being submissive). That day we talked and had fun, enough that he didn’t end up taking anything with him! When he lost his job, it was the beginning of his troubles with the OW, and the beginning of my victory!

Die rede hoekom hy gekom het was omdat hy sy werk verloor het. Hy wou gehad het dat ek vir hom geld moes leen (wat ek gedoen het omdat hy ons geleer het, dat ons nog steeds getroud was en dit was om onderdanig te wees). Daardie dag het ons gepraat en pret gehad, genoeg dat hy nie opgeeindig het om enige iets saam hom te vat nie! Toe hy sy werk verloor het was dit die begin van sy probleme met die AV, en die begin van my oorwinning! 

The OW I am sad to say had abortion. I later found that she got pregnant so that my husband would marry her and so all his money would be hers, but now he didn’t have a job so, no money. She became sharp like the book of Proverbs 5:3-5 says. They began fighting and my husband would come over to see me. One time she hit him with a stool and broke his hand. He came over and lied that he had fallen down while on the bus. That’s when he realized she was after his money and there was no love.

Die AV is ek jammer om te sê het ‘n aborsie gehad. Ek het later uitgevind dat sy swanger geraak het sodat my man met haar sou trou en al sy geld hare sou wees, maar nou het hy nie werk gehad nie so, geen geld nie. Sy het skerp begin word net soos Spreuke 5:3-5 sê. Hulle het begin baklei en my man het oor gekom om my te kom sien. Een keer het sy hom met ‘n stoel geslaan en sy hand gebreek. Hy het oor gekom en gejok en gesê hy het geval toe hy op die bus is. Dit is toe dat hy besef het dat sy agter sy geld aan was en daar was geen liefde nie. 

He was ashamed of coming back to my house completely so he rented another flat where he lived alone. He told my cousin that he had said a lot of hurtful words to me and he felt embarrassed. He said I was treating him well, but he had hurt me enough, and everything I and his family had warned him of, had come to pass.

Hy was skaam om heeltemal terug te kom na my huis toe so hy het ‘n woonstel gehuur waar hy alleen gebly het. Hy het vir my niggie gesê dat hy baie krenkende woorde vir my gesê het en hy het skaam gevoel. Hy het gesê dat ek hom goed behandel het, maar dat hy my genoeg seer gemaak het, en alles wat ek en sy familie hom van gewaarsku het, het waar geword.

He asked my cousin for advice and she told him to do what the prodigal son did but he couldn't. He thought if he came back I would laugh at him because I had won. He stayed alone for quite sometime, but because he didn’t have a job the burden of paying his and my rent became too big. God turned his heart and he finally decided he needed to move back with me and kids!

Hy het my niggie vir advies gevra en sy het vir hom gesê hy moet doen wat die Verlore Seun gedoen het maar hy kon nie. Hy het gedink dat as hy terugkom ek sou vir hom lag omdat ek gewen het. Hy het vir ‘n geruime tyd alleen gebly maar omdat hy nie werk gehad het nie het die las om my huur en sy huur te betaal te groot geword. God het sy hart omgekeer en hy het finaal besluit dat hy terug moes trek by my en die kinders!  

He called all his family members and asked them to forgive him and he accepted his mistakes. He told them he had learned his lesson and he was starting all over again... if I was ready to accept and forgive him. He wanted us to be a family again. I told him I had forgiven him and I asked him to forgive me too for I was contentious and I was not a good wife to him; we were given his parents blessing!

Hy het al sy familie lede gevra om hom te vergewe en hy het sy foute aanvaar. Hy het vir hulle gesê dat hy sy les geleer het en dat hy weer oor begin het...as ek gereed was om te vergewe. Hy wou gehad het dat ons weer ‘n familie moes wees. Ek het vir hom gesê dat ek hom vergewe het en hom gevra om my ook te vergewe omdat ek twisgierig was en ek was nie ‘n goeie vrou vir hom nie; sy ouers het ons hulle seën gegee! 

It hasn't been easy since God restored my marriage. It is not easy because the devil always reminds me of all the pain my husband caused me, but I have learned to overcome him with time with the Lord and my prayers.

Dit was nie maklik vandat God my huwelik herstel het nie. Dit is nie maklik nie omdat die duiwel my altyd aan die pyn herinner wat my man my veroorsaak het, maar ek moes leer om hom te oorkom met tyd met die Here en my gebede.  

My husband and I have become true friends. He began to tell me all his troubles and his plans, which he never did before. When I am not in the house and he wants to go somewhere, he calls or writes a note so I can know where he is and I do the same. It is not always smooth but I am sure that good times are ahead. Even after I lost my job I have something to thank God for—my family is together and complete!

My man en ek het ware vriende begin word. Hy het vir my van al sy probleme en planne begin vertel, wat hy nooit voorheen gedoen het nie. Wanneer ek nie in die huis is nie en hy wil êrens gaan, skakel hy of skryf ‘n nota sodat ek kan weet waar hy is en hy doen dieselfde. Dit verloop nie altyd glad nie maar ek is seker dat goeie tye oppad is. Selfs na ek my werk verloor het het ek iets om vir God dankie te sê—my familie is saam en volledig!

I have learned to be content with what I have and am trusting God because He promised He will supply my needs according to His riches in glory through Christ Jesus (Phil. 4:19). Also, knowing He is my Shepherd, I shall not lack (Psa 23:1).

Ek het geleer om tevrede te wees met wat ek het en ek vertrou op God omdat Hy belowe Hy sal in al my behoeftes ryklik voorsien volgens sy wonderbaarlike rykdom in Christus Jesus (Fil. 4:19). Ook, om te weet dat Hy my Herder is, ek kom niks kort nie (Psa. 23:1).

I thank God for fighting on my behalf. There are so many things He did for me behind the scenes. I thought my husband was happy with OW but I hear he had been regretting everything he had done from the beginning, especially after God said it was time for him to see the changes in me.

Ek dank God dat hy om my onthalwe veg. Daar is so baie dinge wat hy vir my agter die skerms gedoen het. Ek het gedink my man was gelukkig met die AV maar ek hoor dat hy alles wat hy van die begin af aan my gedoen het berou, spesiaal nadat God gesê het dit is tyd vir hom om die veranderinge in my te sien. 

God is faithful to those who wait. Ladies, wait patiently on the Lord for He is true to His promises. He will answer your prayers when the time is right. It might seem long, but He will eventually hear your prayers.

God is getrou aan die wat wag. Dames, wag geduldig op die Here Hy kom al Sy beloftes na. Hy sal jou gebede beantwoord wanneer die tyd reg is. Dit mag dalk lank voel, maar Hy sal uiteindelik jou gebede hoor.

Thank Erin also for her ministry. God bless you for using you to show us the truth. I thought I was a perfect wife but I was wrong. I have learned to listen more than talking and I am submissive. Erin, may the Almighty God reward you for your great ministry.

Dankie aan Erin vir haar ministerie. God seën jou dat Hy jou gebruik het om die waarheid aan ons te wys. Ek het gedink dat ek die perfekte vrou was maar ek was verkeerd. Ek het geleer om meer te luister as te praat en om onderdanig te wees. Erin, mag die Almagtige God jou beloon vir jou ongelooflike ministerie.

Ladies always look at Jesus and not the water when He asks you to get out of the boat. Because, if you look at the water you will sink but, if you look at Jesus you will walk on the water!!

Dames rig julle oë op Jesus en nie die water wanneer Hy jou vra om uit die boot te klim nie. Omdat, as jy na die water kyk sal jy sink, maar as jy vir Jesus kyk sal jy op die water loop!!

God bless you all. AMEN!

God seën julle almal. AMEN!

Vicky in Kenya, Africa, RESTORED

Vicky in Kenya, Afrika, HERSTEL

God Brought us Full Circle

God het ons Vol Sirkel Gebring

Submitted by: Dawn in Ohio; I’ve Experienced a Restored Marriage, I was an RMI Minister.

Ingedien deur: Dawn in Ohio; Ek het ‘n Herstel Huwelik Ervaar, ek was ‘n HMI Minister.

As I was sitting in church recently with my husband and children, listening to the preacher, God reminded me that we were in this same place two years prior, but with a broken marriage. God truly has brought everything full circle. As the preacher continued his sermon, I remembered being at the very same altar two years ago asking the Lord to please give me peace and to show me what I needed to do. I had no idea that everything that would transpire afterward would be for my own good—for I was nowhere near the kind of Godly woman that the Lord needed me to be.

Soos wat ek onlangs saam my man en my kinders in die kerk gesit het, besig om na die priester te luister, het God my herinner dat ons op dieselfde plek twee jaar vantevore was, met ‘n gebroke huwelik. God het werklik alles vol sirkel gebring. Soos wat die priester voort gegaan het met sy preek, het ek onthou dat ek by dieselfde altaar twee jare vantevore vir die Here gevra het om my vrede te gee en my te wys wat ek nodig gehad het om te doen. Ek het geen idee gehad dat alles wat daarna sou plaasvind vir my eie beswil sou wees nie—omdat ek was nerens naby die soort Goddelike vrou wat die Here nodig gehad het vir my om te wees nie.  

I was not serving the Lord the way I was supposed to be serving Him. I was neither hot nor cold, but lukewarm. I was comfortable going to church and trusting God for things. However, I was not on fire for Him. I did not take pleasure in nurturing the ministry the Lord gave me (my family) through cooking, cleaning, and other household duties. I did not allow my husband to be the leader of our family. I did not listen nor respect him. I was clean on the outside, but filthy on the inside, and I didn’t even know it. I was gradually tearing my house down until my life and marriage ended up going down into sinking sand.

Ek het nie die Here gedien soos ek veronderstel was om Hom te dien nie. Ek was nie warm of koud nie, maar louwarm. Ek was gemaklik om kerk toe te gaan en op God te vertrou vir dinge. Nietemin, ek was nie aan die brand vir Hom nie. Ek het nie genot daaruit geput om die ministerie wat die Here vir my gegee het te koester nie (my familie) deur te kook, skoon te maak, en ander huishoudelike take. Ek het my man nie toegelaat om die leier van die familie te wees nie. Ek het nie vir hom geluister of respekteer nie. Ek was skoon aan die buitekant, maar vuil aan die binnekant, en ek het dit nie eens geweet nie. Ek was besig om geleidelik my huis af te breek totdat my lewe en my huwelik opgeeindig het om in sinksand af te gaan. 

While deep in the sand, I humbled myself and prayed to the Lord and repented of my sins. I asked the Lord to make me a better wife to my husband. In my cries to the Lord, He had one of my friends send me the link to How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage, and my eyes began opening wide to the kind of woman I truly was and how I needed to be. I was disobedient to God’s Word -- rebellious, contentious, and a Pharisee. Though I asked my husband to forgive me, he already decided that he wanted a divorce and planned to move out of the house as soon as he could. Yet, I knew God would restore my marriage, despite how things appeared, and continued to hold on to His promises. Although I wanted my husband to stop his thoughts and actions of divorce and turn his heart back to me, I began praying and seeking for God’s will in my life.

Terwyl ek diep in die sand was, het ek nederig tot die Here gebid en my sondes bely. Ek het vir die Here gevra om van my ‘n beter vrou vir my man te maak. Terwyl ek na die Here uitgeroep het, het Hy dat een van my vriendinne vir my die skakel na Hoe God Jou Huwelik Kan en Sal Herstel gestuur, en my oë het wyd begin oop gaan tot die soort vrou wat ek werklik was en hoe ek moes wees. Ek was ongehoorsaam aan God se Woord--rebels, twisgierig en ‘n Fariseër. Alhoewel ek my man gevra het om my te vergewe, het hy klaar besluit dat hy ‘n egskeiding wou gehad het en beplan om uit die huis uit te trek so gou as wat hy kon. Tog, ek het geweet dat God my huwelik sou herstel, ten spyte van hoe dinge gelyk het, en voort gegaan om vas te hou aan Sy beloftes. Alhoewel ek wou gehad het dat my man sy gedagtes en aksies van egskeiding moes stop en sy hart terug keer na my toe, ek het begin bid en God se wil vir my lewe nagestreef. 

As I trusted God more and more for His will to be done, He provided me with a complete makeover. He took away the victim coat and showed me that I was actually the perpetrator: I was contentious, hateful, bitter, unforgiving, deceitful and loud. I hated being home. The Lord had a lot of work to do within me. It was painful to look in the mirror and see that I wasn’t the person I thought I was, not the person others thought I was. Chaste and respectful, one of the lessons I studied while reading A Wise Woman, I was not. The Lord was gracious enough to show me that I hadn’t embodied any of these Godly qualities, and was a harlot in every sense of the word. The Lord removed all of my ugly, worldly traits layer by layer, and replaced them with fruits of the spirit; love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. All of the biblical principles discussed in the RMI resources I didn’t know to begin with, so I had to re-study them multiple times to sink in. The tests that I underwent after learning and studying of His Word were much harder and painful than the ones from my school days, but they are also more rewarding. I struggled with several things - learning not repaying evil for evil, keeping my mouth shut, and not defending myself.  Though difficult, the best part is that the Lord was always with me. He saved me from the fire, and although He may not have always spoken to me in the midst of my testing and trials, He never left me. These tests stretched my faith (especially when I couldn’t hear Him) and gave me the endurance that I needed to finish this part of my race.

Soos ek God meer en meer vertrou het en Sy wil om te geskied, hy het my met ‘n hele doenoor voorsien. Hy het die slagoffer baadjie weg gevat en my gewys dat ek eintlik die skuldige was: ek was twisgierig, haatlik, bitter, onvergewinsgesind, bedrieglik en luid. Ek het gehaat om by die huis te wees. Die Here het baie werk gehad om binne my te doen. Dit was pynlik om in die spieël te kyk en te sien dat ek nie die persoon was wat ek gedink het ek was nie, nie die persoon wat ander gedink het ek was nie. Blywende beskeidenheid, was een van die lesse wat ek bestudeer het toe ek ‘n Wyse Vrou gelees het, ek was nie. Die Here was grasieus genoeg om my te wys dat ek nie een van daardie Christelike kwaliteite beliggaam het nie, en ek was ‘n hoer in elke sin van die woord. Die Here het al my wêreld se eienskappe laag by laag verwyder, en hulle met vrugte van die gees vervang: liefde, genot, vrede, verdraagsaamheid, vriendelikheid, goedheid, getrouheid, en self beheersing. Al die bibliese prinsiepe wat bespreek was in die HJH hulpbronne wat ek nie van geweet het om mee te begin nie, so ek moes hulle keer en keer oor leer om in te sink. Die toetse wat ek ondergaan het nadat ek Sy Woord bestudeer het en geleer het was baie moeiliker en pynliker as my skool dae, maar hulle was ook baie meer lonend. Ek het met verskeie dinge gesukkel—nie om kwaad met kwaad te vergeld nie, my mond toe te hou en nie, myself te verdedig nie. Alhoewel dit moeilik was was die Here altyd met my, hy het my uit die vuur gered, en alhoewel hy nie met my gepraat het in die middel van my toetse en beproewings nie, het Hy my nooit verlaat nie. Hierdie toetse het my geloof gestrek (spesiaal wanneer ek hom nie kon hoor nie) en my die uithou vermoë gegee om hierdie deel van my reis te voltooi.      

The most difficult obstacle for me to overcome was fear. The Lord addresses fear many times in His Word. In Isaiah 40:10 NIV, it says “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”  I clung to my fears - fear of rejection, fear of being hurt again. After the Lord allowed the divorce to go through and He began bringing the wall down between me and my husband and began bringing my husband around, my fear still grew within me and I pushed my former husband away. I pushed him away a few times before the Lord showed me what was happening. He revealed to me that my restoration journey was almost a year longer than it should had because I kept intervening, leaning on my own understanding rather than His. God was putting things back together again, but I was pushing them apart. God was bringing my husband around and allowing my husband to allure me, but I was pushing him away. Once I realized it, I asked the Lord to help me conquer my fear and restore my marriage if it truly was His will.

Die moeilikste struikelblok was vrees. Die Here adresseer vrees baie keer in Sy Woord. In Jesaja 41:10, sê dit “Moenie bang wees nie, Ek is by jou, moenie bekommerd wees nie, Ek is jou God. Ek versterk jou, Ek help jou, Ek hou jou vas, met my eie hand red Ek jou.” Ek het aan my vrese vasgeklou- vrees vir verwerping, vrees om weer seer te kry. Nadat die Here toegelaat het dat die egskeiding deurgaan en Hy die muur tussen my en my man begin afbring het en my man om gebring het, het my vrees nog binne my gegroei en ek het my vorige man weggestoot. Ek het hom ‘n paar keer weggestoot voordat die Here my gewys het wat besig was om te gebeur. Hy het aan my bekend gemaak dat my herstel reis amper ‘n jaar langer sou wees as dit moet omdat ek aangehou het om in te meng, en op my eie insigte staat gemaak eerder as Syne. God was besig om dinge weer bymekaar te sit en ek was besig om hom terug te stoot. God was besig om my man om te bring en toe te laat om my te verlok, maar ek was besig om hom weg te stoot. Toe ek dit begin besef het ek die Here gevra om my te help om my vrese te oorwin en my huwelik te herstel as dit regtig Sy wil is. 

In His will for my journey, I ended up going through the seasons with the Lord as my Husband twice, due to my fears. The second time around, I learned to relate to every situation and everyone on a different level than before. Each season gave me a deeper appreciation for the Lord as my Husband. While I was going through the seasons with my Love, I was also going through the season with my then former husband. I was and am so in love with the Lord that I had let everything go, but He kept telling me that a life of singleness (as defined by the world) was not His will for me and my children.

In Sy wil vir my reis, het ek opgeeindig om deur dieselfde seisoene twee keer met die Here te gaan, as gevolg van my vrese . Die tweede keer, het ek geleer om my te vereenselwig met elke situasie en almal op ‘n verskillende vlak as vantevore. Elke seisoen het my ‘n dieper waardering vir die Here as my Man gegee. Terwyl ek deur die seisoene met my Beminde gegaan het, was ek ook besig om deur die seisoene te gaan met my vorige man. Ek was en is so verlief op die Here dat ek alles laat gaan het, maar Hy het my aanhou vertel dat ‘n lewe van ‘n enkellopende (soos deur die wêreld gedefinieer) was nie Sy wil vir my en my kinders nie.  

The turning point in my journey came about when my former husband continued alluring me, and this time I knew what it was - God’s will. We were in Canaan Valley, ironically, when the Lord told me that despite my mistakes and fears that He was going to restore my marriage. Wow! There were hints hidden in different things the Lord was showing me. After the Lord’s revelation to me, my former husband and I talked even more, but all appeared to stay the same. Then my friend passed away. I was devastated! I watched his marriage get restored not even a month before he died. During this time, my former husband was there to comfort me and my daughter. The Lord used this sorrowful time in my life to bring us even closer together and make our relationship new.

Die keerpunt in my reis het gekom toe my vorige man my aanhoudend verlok het, en hierdie keer het ek geweet wat dit was - God se wil. Ons was in die Kanaan Vallei, ironies toe die Here my vertel dat hy het ondanks my foute en vrese dat my huwelik gaan herstel. Wow! Daar was wenke in verskillende dinge weggesteek wat die Here besig was om my te wys. Na die Here se openbaring aan my, het ek en my vorige man selfs meer gepraat, maar dit het gelyk of dinge dieselfde bly. Toe gaan my vriend dood ek was verpletter! Ek het gesien hoe sy huwelik skaars ‘n maand voordat hy dood is herstel is. Gedurende hierdie tyd, was my vorige man daar om my en my dogter te troos. Die Here het hierdie treurige tyd in my lewe gebring om ons nader aan mekaar te bring en ons verhouding nuut te maak.    

The thought of remarriage to my former husband never crossed my mind. I was happy with the Lord as my Husband and very content living the way that we were. However, the Lord had other plans. My husband decided that he wanted us to get remarried as soon as possible and then the Lord took over from there. This was one of my biggest tests in my journey - overcoming my fears of remarriage and trusting in the Lord. The morning of our wedding ceremony, I was so overcome with fear that when the judge commented about never marrying a bride with cold feet, I nearly passed out. I was praying to the Lord during the entire ceremony to help me conquer my fear and keep obedient to His will; I wanted to run. He reminded me of 1 John 4:18 (NASB) which says that “there is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love.” The Lord helped me through the entire ceremony which lasted two minutes, but seemed like an eternity.

Die gedagte om weer met my vorige man te trou het nooit by my opgekom nie. Ek was gelukkig ek het die Here as my Man gehad en baie tevrede om te bly soos ons was. Nietemin, die Here het ander planne gehad. My man het besluit dat hy wou gehad het dat ons so gou as moontlik weer moes trou en toe het die Here van daar af oorgeneem. Dit was een van my grootste toetse in  my reis- om my vrese om weer te trou te oorkom en op die Here te vertrou. Die oggend van ons huwelik seremonie, was ek so vol vrees dat toe die regter kommentaar om nooit met ‘n bruid te trou met koue voete nie, het ek amper vlou geval. Ek het vir die Here gedurende die hele seremonie gebid om my vrese te oorwin en gehoorsaam aan Sy wil te bly; ek wou weg hardloop. Hy het my aan 1 Johannes 4:18 herinner wat sê dat waar liefde is, is daar geen vrees nie, maar volmaakte liefde verdryf vrees, omdat vrees verwag straf, en wie nog vrees, het nie volmaakte liefde nie.” Die Here het my deur die hele seremonie gehelp wat twee minute gehou het, maar soos ‘n ewigheid gevoel het.   

There have been a whirlwind of changes that the Lord has made in me. Changes that I could not have made on my own. God has been using me to help others in their Restoration Journeys from the very beginning of mine. I always enjoyed helping others in their time of need, which is why I am a volunteer firefighter, and helping others with their journey is an extension and a new part of serving others through and for the Lord.  I also love being home and serving my family now. I am learning so many things about being home, cooking and cleaning. I am still getting brave enough to learn how to quilt, sew, and crochet, as I love to learn. Although I am a work in progress, I am content with being at home and taking care of my first mission field, my family. This is something I always wanted to do, but didn’t know how until I was led to this ministry.

Daar is ‘n warrelwind veranderinge wat die Here in my gemaak het. Veranderinge wat ek nie op my eie kon gemaak het nie. God het my gebruik om ander in hulle Herstel Reise te help van die begin van myne af. Ek het nog altyd daarvan gehou om ander in hulle tyd van nood te help, wat die rede is hoekom ek ‘n vrywilligheids brandweervrou is, en om ander te help met hulle reis is ‘n uitstrekking en ‘n nuwe deel om ander deur die Here te dien. Ek hou ook daarvan om by die huis te wees en bedien my familie nou. Ek leer so baie dinge nou deur om by die huis te wees, te kook en skoon te maak. Ek word nog steeds braaf genoeg om te leer hoe om ‘n lappies kombers te maak, naaldwerk te doen en te hekel, omdat ek daarvan hou om te leer. Alhoewel ek nog steeds onafgehandelde werk is, is ek nog tevrede om by die huis te wees en na my eerste missie veld om te sien, my familie. Dit is iets wat ek nog altyd wou doen maar ek het nie geweet hoe totdat ek na hierdie ministerie toe gelei is nie.   

Now I am starting a new part of this journey with new tests and trials. I am so glad that I had RMI and all of their resources to help me be ready for this part of the journey. I know that this is a lifelong journey and the thing that I want everyone to know is that I love the Lord with all my heart.

Noudat ek ‘n nuwe deel van my reis met nuwe toetse en beproewings begin. Is ek so bly dat ek HMI gehad het en al hulle hulpbronne om my te help om gereed te wees vir hierdie deel van die reis. Ek weet dit is ‘n lewenslange reis en die ding wat ek wil hê almal moet weet is dat ek die Here met my hele hart liefhet.

I recommend every resource RMI has to offer. They are filled with the truth that every woman coming to this ministry needs. I read all of them at least twice, and keep them for future reference. I also suggest writing out the Bible verses that speak to your heart on 3X5 cards. The resources are so wonderful and give you the raw truth while you are broken to help you build a relationship with the Lord as your Husband.

Ek beveel elke hulpbron wat HMI het om te offer. Hulle is gevul met die waarheid wat elke vrou wat na die ministerie kom nodig het. Ek lees hulle almal te, en n minste twee keer, en hou hulle vir die toekoms om na hulle te verwys. Ek stel ook voor dat jy die Bybel verse wat met jou hart praat op 3x5 kaartjies uitskryf. Die hulpbronne is wonderlik en gee jou die rou waarheid  terwyl jy gebroke is om te help om jou verhouding met die Here te bou as jou Man.

When I found RMI, I was broken and looking for the truth. I found this ministry just when I needed it, which confirms that the Lord’s timing is perfect. I couldn’t take the RMI courses right away so I reread what I did have from the ministry, and then moved on to other books like workers@home about keeping up with my home -- another part of His plan.

Toe ek HMI gevind het, was ek gebroke en het vir die waarheid gesoek. Ek het hierdie ministerie gevind net toe ek dit nodig gehad het, wat bevestig het dat die Here se tydsbereking perfek is. Ek kon nie die HMI kursusse dadelik neem nie toe het ek weer gelees wat ek van die ministerie gehad het en het toe aan beweeg na ander boeke soos workers@home oor hoe om huis te hou-- nog ‘n deel van Sy plan.

During this journey, which will last for a lifetime, I found something I never had before, a real relationship with the Lord. When He took me as His bride, my life completely changed. Things that used to matter to me no longer mattered. I wanted and want to live to please Him, and do the things He called me to do.

Gedurende hierdie reis, wat ‘n leeftyd sal hou, het ek iets gevind wat ek nooit gehad het nie, ‘n regte verhouding met die Here. Toe Hy my as Sy bruid geneem het, het my lewe heeltemal verander. Dinge wat vir my saak gemaak het het nie meer vir my saak gemaak nie. Ek wou en wil lewe om Hom te behaag, en die dinge doen wat Hy my geroep het om te doen.

Honestly, I would not change a single minute of the time I spent getting to know my new Husband. It was time that I needed with Him. He is still my everything and now that I obey Him and have a restored marriage as a result. He has been blessing me so much that I cannot even begin to tell you in just a testimony or praise report.  He has given me back everything that I lost over the past two years ago—and so much more. Everything that I allowed the enemy to steal from me since I never tithed and was ignorant to the truth. 

Eerlik ek sal nie ‘n enkele minuut verander van die tyd wat ek spandeer het om my nuwe Man te leer ken nie. Dit was tyd wat ek saam Hom nodig gehad het. Hy is nog steeds my alles en noudat ek hom gehoorsaam en ‘n herstelde huwelik het as ‘n resultaat. Hy seën my so baie dat ek nie kan begin om te vertel in net ‘n getuienis of ‘n lof verslag nie. Hy het vir my alles terug gegee wat ek oor die afgelope twee jaar verloor het—en soveel meer. Alles wat ek toegelaat dat die vyand van my steel aangesien ek nooit my tiende gegee het nie en was oningelig oor die waarheid.

I hope that each of you all find Him in a deeper more intimate way, a relationship with Him is worth every tear, heartache, and loss that you will endure.

Ek hoop dat elke een van julle Hom in ‘n dieper meer intieme manier vind, ‘n verhouding met Hom is werd elke traan, hartseer, en verlies wat jy sal verduur. 

God’s plan is to bring everything full circle as we follow Him along our Restoration Journey.

God se plan is om alles vol sirkel te bring soos wat ons Hom langs on Herstel reis volg.

~ Dawn in Ohio

~Dawn in Ohio

THE ESTHER TREATMENT

DIE ESTER BEHANDELING

In the Bible, in book of Esther, it begins with the story of Queen "Vasti" who is being removed  and he is finding a replacement because of her behavior that infuriated and angered the king. I am sure we can all find a familiarity with that when the men in our lives who no longer wanted us!

In die Bybel in die boek van Ester, begin dit met die storie van Koningin “Vasti’ wat verwyder is en hy vind ‘n vervanging as gevolg van haar gedrag wat die koning woedend en kwaad gemaak het. Ek is seker ons kan familiariteit vind met die mans in ons lewens wat ons nie meer wil hê nie!  

After removing Queen Vasti, the next step was for the king to find a NEW queen, which is when Esther comes into the picture. She was chosen to REPLACE Vasti as queen!  

Nadat hy Koningin Vasti verwyder het, was die volgende stap om ‘n NUWE konining te vind wat is toe  Ester in die prentjie kom. Sy was gekies om koningin Vasti as koningin te VERVANG!

Though you were once like a "Queen Vasti" (just as all of us once were) God is NOW calling you to be HIS NEW Queen and HIS bride! We can already see how He has been transforming you, and we suspected this was His plan when we read through your Marriage Evaluation Questionnaire.

Alhoewel jy eens op ‘n tyd soos ‘n “Koningin Vasti” was (net soos almal van ons eens op ‘n tyd was) roep God jou nou om SY NUWE Konining en SY bruid te wees! Ons kan alreeds sien hoe hoe Hy jou hervorm, en ons vermoed dat dit Sy plan was toe hy deur jou Huwelik Evaluasie Vraestel gelees het. 

God is the One who saw the change He needed to make in you. He wanted to transform you from a Queen Vasti who is not fit due to her insubordinate and contentious behavior. This is why the Lord "turned your husband's heart away from you." 

God is die Een wat die verandering gesien het wat Hy nodig gehad het om in jou te maak. Hy wou jou hervorm van ‘n Koningin Vasti wat nie geskik is as gevolg van haar weerspannige en twisgierige optrede nie. Dit is hoekom die Here “jou man se hart weg van jou af gedraai het.”

"The king’s heart is like channels of water in the hand of the LORD; He turns it wherever He wishes"—Proverbs 21:1

“Die wil van die koning staan onder die gesag van die Here; soos ‘n stroom water lei Hy dit soos Hy verkies”—Spreuke 21:1

The next step (if that has not gotten your attention) is to remove him completely from your life.

Die volgende stap (as dit nie jou aandag getrek het nie) is om hom heeltemal uit jou lewe te verwyder.

"You [Lord] have removed lover and friend far from me; 
My acquaintances are in darkness"—Psalm 88:18

“U laat my vriende en my bure ver van my af staan, die duisternis van die dood is my geselskap”—Psalm 88:18

"You [Lord] have removed my acquaintances far from me; You have made me an object of loathing to them; I am shut up and cannot go out"—Psalm 88:8

“U laat my bekendes ver van my af staan en maak my vir hulle iets afskuweliks”—Psalm 88:8

Due to not being agreeable, you are now locked in an emotional prison.

Aangesien jy nie instemmend is nie, is jy nou in ‘n emosionele tronk.

"Agree with your adversary quickly, while you are on the way with him, lest your adversary deliver you to the judge, the judge hand you over to the officer, and you be thrown into [emotional] prison"—Matthew 5:25

“As iemand ‘n regsaak teen jou begin, kom betyds tot ‘n skikking solank jy nog saam met hom op pad hof toe is, sodat hy jou nie voor die regter bring en die regter jou aan die polisie oorgee en dié jou in die [emosionele] tronk sit nie”

Your husband turned away from you to the point that he may have actually begun to loath you, and in most cases that's when—he gets caught falling for another woman. She usually has been "smooth as honey" but this is only at first. Later she will turn out to be "bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edge sword."

Jou man het weg van jou af gedraai tot op die punt dat hy jou eintlik begin verafsku, en in meeste gevalle is dit wanneer —hy gevang word om vir ‘n ander vrou te val. Sy is gewoonlik “so glad soos heuning” maar dit is net aan die begin. Later sal sy uitdraai om “so bitter soos wildeals te wees, so gevaarlik soos die skerpste swaard.”

You need to be transformed from the contentious wife you've been in order "To deliver [your husband] from the strange woman, from the adulteress who flatters with her words"—Proverbs 2:16

Jy moet hervorm word van die twisgierige vrou wat jy was in orde om jou man “weg te hou van die slegte vrou af, die vrou met die verleidelike praatjies”—Spreuke 2:16

"For the lips of an adulteress drip honey and smoother than oil is her speech"—Proverbs 5:3

“Die slegte vrou se lippe drup van die heuning, haar tong is gladder as olie”—Spreuke 5:3 

"For why should you, my son, be exhilarated with an adulteress and embrace the bosom of a foreigner?"—Proverbs 5:20

“Waarom sou jy jou laat bedwelm deur ‘n slegte vrou, my seun, waarom sou jou in die arms van ‘n ander vrou gaan lê?”—Spreuke 5:20 

The adulteress your husband is involved with is not only going to turn sharp and bitter, but also "For on account of a harlot one is reduced to a loaf of bread, and an adulteress hunts for [and has stolen your] precious life"—Proverbs 6:26

Die egbreekster by wie jou man betrokke is sal nie net skerp en bitter word nie, maar ook “Jy kan ‘n prostituut kry vir ‘n stuk brood, maar owerspel kan jou lewe kos” Spreuke 6:26 

Only the gentle and quiet spirit of YOU as his wife will be able to "keep [him] from an adulteress, from the foreigner who flatters with her words"—Proverbs 7:5

Net die stil en sagmoedige gees van JOU as sy vrou sal hom “weghou van die slegte vrou af, die vrou met die verleidelike praatjies”—Spreuke 7:5 

That's because "The mouth of an adulteress is a deep pit; he who is cursed of the LORD will fall into [this pit of destruction]"—Proverbs 22:14

Dit is omdat “Die mond van ‘n slegte vrou is ‘n diep afgrond; jy val daarin as die Here jou vervloek het[uit die put van die dood]”—Spreuke 22:14

HOWEVER dear wife, the ONLY way to fight this is NOT to continue to act like an adulteress woman nor stupidly try to warn your husband (this will set you back years!!). INSTEAD begin to stop acting as the adulteress woman…

ALHOEWEL liewe vrou die ENIGSTE manier om dit te beveg is om NIE soos ‘n owerspelige vrou op te tree nie of om dwaaslik jou man te waarsku (dit sal jou jare terugsit!!). IN PLAAS DAARVAN begin om op te hou soos die owerspelige vrou op te tree... 

"This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth, And says, “I have done no wrong”—Proverbs 30:20

“Die ontroue vrou het haar eie manier: sy eet en vee haar mond af en sê: “Ek het niks verkeerds gedoen nie.”—Spreuke 30:20

Be willing to look at yourSELF and confess your faults. This will begin to transform you into having a "gentle and quiet spirit" and AGREEABLE spirit, which are what is precious in the sight of God!

Wees gewillig om na jouSELF te kyk en jou foute te bely. Dit sal begin om jou te hervorm om ‘n “stil en sagmoedige” gees te hê en ‘n INSTEMMENDE gees, wat kosbaar in die sig van God is! 

"In the same way [as Jesus acted], you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior.

“Vrouens julle moet aan julle mans onderdanig wees. As daar van julle is met mans wat nie die woord van God glo nie, en die mans sien hoe godvresend julle is en hoe veoorbeeldig julle julle gedra, sal hulle vir Christus gewen word deur die gedrag van hulle vrouens. Dit sal nie eens vir julle nodig wees om ‘n woord te sê nie.

"Your adornment must not be merely external—[the way you look, fix your hair, or jewelry]— but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God"—1 Peter 3:1-4

“Julle skoonheid moet nie bestaan uit uiterlike dinge soos haarkapsels, juwele en sierlike klere nie. Nee, julle skoonheid moet dié van die innerlike mens wees:blywende beskeidenheid en kalmte van gees, dit het by God groot waarde”—1 Petrus 3:1-4

HOW IS THIS TRANSFORMATION POSSIBLE?

HOE IS DIE TRANSFORMASIE MOONTLIK?

Now that you're interested in doing things GOD'S WAY, it's time to let you in on what we see He is doing in your life. That way you can work WITH God on the next step of your Restoration Journey, which is VERY EXCITING!!

Noudat jy geinteresseerd is om dinge op GOD SE MANIER te doen, is dit tyd om jou in te laat oor wat ons sien Hy besig is om in jou lewe te doen. Op daardie manier kan jy SAAM God werk op die volgende stap van jou Herstel Reis, wat BAIE OPWINDEND is!!  

Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but WITH God all things are possible”—Matthew 19:26

Jesus het reguit na hulle gekyk en gesê: “Vir mense is dit onmoontlik, maar VIR God is alles moontlik.”—Matteus 19:26 

Like all the women who experienced a restored marriage, the Lord wants to give YOU a complete MAKEOVER and He always begins by working from the inside out, the "hidden person of the heart"!

Soos al die vrouens wat ‘n herstelde huwelik ervaar het, die Here wil vir JOU ‘n kompleet DOENOOR gee en Hy begin altyd deur van binne na buite te werk, “die innerlike mens”! 

Your heart was broken when you came to us looking for encouragement, and we hope you will pursue becoming closer and closer to with Lord. Because if you do, your heart will heal and very soon SOAR with His Love that will spill over (and be evident) to everyone in your life—just as Vicky shared with us in her Restored Marriage Testimony!!

Jou hart was gebroke toe jy na ons toe gekom het vir aanmoediging, en ons hoop jy sal nastreef om nader en nader aan die Here te kom. Want as jy dit doen, sal jou hart genees en jy sal baie vinnig SWEEF met Sy liefde wat sal oorvloei (en duidelik) aan almal in jou lewe wees—net soos Vicky met ons in haar Herstelde Huwelik Getuienis gedeel het.

THE BEGINNING of the TRANSFORMATION

DIE BEGIN van die TRANSFORMASIE

In the book of Esther we see how once Esther was selected to replace Queen Vasti. And right after she was CHOSEN, she basically went into complete SECLUSION to be pampered and bathed and perfumed until God was ready for HIS REVEAL to her king!

In die boek van Ester sien ons hoe Ester eens op ‘n tyd gekies was om Koningin Vasti te vervang. En reg na sy GEKIES was, het sy basies in algehele AFSONDERING gegaan om gepamperlang te word en gebad en geparfuum totdat God reg was vir SY ONTHULLING aan haar koning! 

And only when He knew that not only was Esther ready to take her place as queen, but He knew that the king was also ready to accept HER ALONE to sit by his side. Only then did God reveal the NEW Queen Esther—AFTER Esther's transformation to a regal queen!

En alleenlik toe Hy weet dat nie net Ester was wat  gereed was om haar plek as koningin in te neem nie, maar Hy het geweet dat die koning was ook gereed om HAAR ALLEEN te aanvaar om aan sy sy te sit. Alleenlik toe het God die NUWE koningin Ester onthul—NA Ester se transformasie na ‘n vorstelike koningin!  

During her transformation neither she nor anyone else reported the progress of her transformation to the king—not one thing about what was being done to transform her. He had no idea how she was slowly but beautifully changing!!

Gedurende haar transformasie het nie sy of enige iemand anders die vordering van haar transformasie aan die koning rapporteer nie—nie een ding oor wat gedoen was om haar te hervorm nie. Hy het geen idee gehad hoe sy besig was om stadig maar pragtig te verander!!

Instead, her makeover was kept a secret from EVERYONE

In plaas daarvan, was haar doenoor ‘n geheim gehou van ALMAL af 

Now let's focus on that man of yours for a moment.

Nou kom ons fokus op daardie man van jou vir ‘n oomblik. 

STEP TWO: MEN will run if they are PURSUED

STAP TWEE: MANS sal hardloop as hulle NAGEJAAG word

Almost ALL of the men who leave or want to leave are stopped or chased and pursued by their wives AND their girlfriends! Men were not created to be chased but to be the one to chase and pursue. Men were created as the hunters, not the hunted.

Amper ALLE mans wat loop of wat wil loop word gekeer of agterna gesit en nagejaag deur hulle vrouens EN hulle meisies! Mans was nie geskape om nagejaag te word nie maar om na te jaag en agterna te sit. Mans was geskape om jagters te wees, nie die gejaagde nie.  

The other woman didn't chase him like you are foolishly doing, instead SHE SEDUCED him with kind speech and her smooth ways to get him. Yet this ends and is only temporary so DON'T YOU try something so foolish!!

Die ander vrou het hom nie nagejaag soos jy verspot doen nie, in plaas daarvan het SY HOM VERLEI met haar vriendelike praatjies en haar gladde maniere om hom te kry. Tog dit eindig en is net tydelik so MOET JY nie probeer om iets so verspot te doen nie!!

What will turn your husband's heart is when GOD does His BIG reveal and a HUGE part is TIMING! If you have created nightmarish memories of things you've said or outrageous behavior, your husband is going to need some TIME to heal and have his memory washed clean.

Wat jou man se hart sal omkeer is wanneer GOD Sy GROOT onthulling doen en ‘n GROOT deel is TYDSBEREKENING! As jy ‘n nagmerrie van herinneringe geskep het van wat jy gesê het of jou buitensporige optrede, gaan jou man TYD nodig hê om te genees en om sy herinneringe skoon gewas te hê.  

It's time to hide away in your prayer closet and pray Psalm 9:6 "The enemy has come to an end in perpetual ruins, and You [Lord] have uprooted the cities; the very memory of [all of] them has perished."

Dit is tyd om weg te kruip in jou gebeds hoekie en Psalm 9:6 te bid “U die [Here] het die nasies met vernietiging gedreig, die skuldiges laat omkom, hulle naam vir altyd uitgewis.”

Some of the most amazing testimonies have happened due to praying and trusting God for the promise in this verse! One I share on my Be Encouraged videos when my own husband said something amazing to me. After years of being argumentative, of being a contentious woman, he said, "Well, we've never argued!" Again, the reason he told me he left was because of our fighting! But GOD's word are His promises to us, and I believed God could wipe out all the past memories and He did!

Sommige van die mees ongelooflike getuienisse het gebeur deur gebed en om op God te vertrou vir die beloftes in hierdie verse! Een deel ek op my Wees Aangemoedig videos toe my eie man iets verbasend vir my gesê het. Na jare van argumente, van ‘n twisgierige vrou wees, het hy gesê, “Wel ons het nooit argumenteer nie!” Weer, die rede wat hy my vertel het dat die rede wat hy geloop het was as gevolg van ons bakleiery! Maar GOD se woord is Sy beloftes aan ons, en ek het geglo dat God al die herinneringe van die verlede sou uitwis en hy het!   

Not only did he forget about how I used to be, but he later forgot all about the other woman after he got home. He honestly couldn't remember anything!

Nie alleen het hy vergeet oor hoe ek was nie, maar hy het later vergeet van al die ander vrouens nadat hy by die huis gekom het. Hy kon eerlik niks onthou nie! 

Similar testimonies have come in. Early after Michelle's marriage was restored she told me how squeaky clean her husband's mind had been cleansed of his past. However, years later she wrote to tell me that bitterness was hidden in her heart due to the pain her husband had caused HER. So she began praying this prayer for herself and experienced her memories cleansed!

Soortgelyke getuienisse het ingekom. Vroeg in Michelle se huwelik was sy herstel en het sy my vertel hoe silwerskoon haar man se herinneringe van sy verlede gereinig is. Nietemin, jare later het sy geskryf om my te vertel dat daar bitterheid in haar hart weggesteek was as gevolg van die pyn wat hy HAAR veroorsaak het. So sy het begin om hierdie gebed vir haarself te bid en ondervind dat haar herinneringe gereinig was!

BECOME A CHALLENGE—NOT "EASY" TO GET

WORD ‘N UITDAGING—NIE “MAKLIK” OM TE KRY NIE

Just look at how ALL men seem to have an obsession with sports and/or hobbies that captivate them. WHY? It's because of the challenge. If there were no challenges, just like they are experiencing in their relationship with us (who are often pursuing them), then they would become bored and lose interest.

Kyk net hoe ALLE mans lyk asof hulle ‘n obsessie met sports/ of stokperdjies het wat hulle bekoor. HOEKOM? Dit is as gevolg van die uitdaging. As daar geen uitdagings is nie, net soos wat hulle in hulle verhoudings met ons ervaar (wie hulle dikwels agternasit), dan sal hulle verveeld raak en belangstelling verloor. 

As soon as our society began encouraging women to be the ones to pursue men, the more women began being treated as a harlot would—used and abused—and abandoned.

Sodra ons gemeenskap begin om vrouens aan te moedig om diegene te wees om die mans agterna te sit, hoe meer word vrouens as hoere behandel—gebruik en misbruik—en verlate.

We know that GOD CREATED women to be a husband's helper and NOT his harlot. We want YOU to be cherished and NOT CHEATED on.

Ons weet dat GOD vrouens GESKEP het om die man se helper te wees en NIE sy hoer nie. Ons wil hê JY moet gekoester word en NIE op GEKUL word nie.

Unfortunately this will never happen until each of us knows and understands HIS PLAN for the way a woman should be, which makes us attractive to men. And this is why we want to teach you how to work WITH Him in HIS makeover of YOU!

Ongelukkig sal dit nooit gebeur totdat ieder en elk van ons sy plan ken en verstaan oor die manier wat ‘n vrou behoort te wees nie, wat ons aantreklik vir mans maak. En dit is hoekom ons jou wil leer hoe om MET Hom te werk in SY doenoor van JOU! 

And once your makeover is complete, get ready to step up to YOUR place of honor and get ready to be pursued!!!

En sodra jou vernuwing voltooi is, word gereed om in JOU plek van eer op te stap en raak gereed om agterna gesit te word!!! 

"You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her HONOR as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered"— 1 Peter 3:7

“Mans, julle met verstandig met julle vrouens saamleef. Bewys eer aan hulle as die swakker geslag wat saam met julle deel in die lewe as genadegawe. Dan sal julle kan bid sonder dat iets julle hinder”— 1 Petrus 3:7

Do I have a Man for You!

Het Ek ‘n Man vir Jou!

The only way for your husband to begin to pursue you and for you to be ready for WHEN (not if) the adulteress becomes bitter and cutting— is for YOU to be involved with another MAN.

Die enigste manier vir jou man om jou te begin nasit en vir jou om gereed te wees WANNEER (nie as) die owerspelige vrou bitter en snydend word nie—is vir JOU om by ‘n ander MAN betrokke te raak.

NOW please don't run away, this is not just ANY man, but THE Man. He is known by many names, because He is a Man like no other.

NOU moet asseblief nie wegardloop nie, dit is nie net ENIGE man nie, maar DIE Man. Hy word geken deur baie name, omdat Hy ‘n Man is soos geen ander. 

 In Revelation 17:14 they say:

 In Openbaring 17:14 sê hulle:

He is Lord of lords

Hy is die Here van die heersers

the King of kings

die Koning van konings

In Isaiah 9:6 they say His name will be called: 

In Jesaja 9:5 sê hulle Sy name sal genoem word:

Wonderful Counselor

Wonderbare Raadsman

Mighty God

Magtige God

Eternal Father

Ewige Vader

Prince of Peace

Vredevors

In Isaiah 54:5 He tells us some more wonderful news:

In Jesaja 54:5 Vertel Hy ons wonderlike nuus:

"For your Husband is your Maker, Whose name is the LORD of hosts; And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel, Who is called the God of all the earth.

“Hy wat jou gemaak het, is jou man, sy Naam is die Here die Almagtige. Die Heilige van Israel is jou Verlosser; Hy word die God van die hele wêreld genoem.

Why would this magnificent, perfect Man become YOUR Husband?

Hoekom sou hierdie manjifieke, perfekte Man JOU Man word? 

In verse six it actually explains why:

In vers ses verduidelik dit eintlik hoekom:

"For the LORD has called YOU, [yes, YOU!] ,

“Jy is ‘n verstote en bitter bedroefde vrou, maar

Like a wife forsaken and grieved in spirit,

Die HERE roep JOU [ja, JY!] terug,

Even like a wife of one's youth when she is rejected,"

Want hoe kan ‘n man sy eie vrou vergeet?

Says your God.

Sê jou God.

God goes on to say in verse four,

God gaan aan om te sê in vers vier,

"Fear not, for you will not be put to shame;

“Moenie bang wees nie, jy sal nie weer in die skande kom nie,

And do not feel humiliated, for you will not be disgraced;

Moenie so verleë daar staan nie, jy sal nie weer verneder word nie

But you will forget the shame of your youth,

Jy sal die skande uit jou jong dae vergeet,

And the reproach of your widowhood you will remember no more."

En nie meer dink hoe jy verneder is toe jy ‘n weduwee was nie.

Amazing isn't it? 

Verstommend is dit nie?

And how did He know this was how you felt? That this was what was happening?

En hoe het Hy geweet dit is hoe jy gevoel het? Dat dit is wat besig was om te gebeur?

Guess what? It's because He was watching and listening!! Read this from the Bible in the book of Malachi:

Raai wat? Dit is omdat Hy besig was om dop te hou en te luister!! Lees dit uit die Bybel in die boek van Maleagi:

"This is another thing you do: you cover the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping and with groaning...Yet you say, ‘For what reason?’ Because the LORD has been a witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. Take heed then to your spirit, and let no one deal treacherously against the wife of your youth"— Malachi 2:13–15

“Daar is nog iets wat julle doen. Julle huil en kerm en sug by die altaar van die HERE omdat Hy nie meer julle offers wil aanneem nie, en julle vra: “Waarom dan nie?” Dit is omdat die HERE weet wat gebeur het tussen jou en met die vrou met wie jy van jou jeug af getroud is: jy was ontrou aan haar, ontrou aan jou eie vrou, die vrou aan wie jy plegtig trou belowe het. Beheers julle, moenie ontrou wees aan die vrou met wie jy van jou jeug af getroud is nie.’—Maleagi 2:13-15

The LORD had been a witness when you have been treated unkindly, unfairly and without love! 

Die HERE was ‘n getuienis toe jy onvriendelik , onregverdig en sonder liefde behandel was!

Why Did God Allow this Unkindness to Happen?

Hoekom het God Toegelaat dat hierdie Onvriendelikheid Gebeur?

Because He has been jealous of the person whom your husband has become in your life.

Omdat Hy jaloers was op die persoon wat jou man in jou lewe begin word het. 

"You shall not worship them or serve them; for I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God"—Exodus 20:5

“Julle mag hulle nie vereer of dien nie, want Ek, die Here jou God, eis onverdeelde trou aan My” —Eksodus 20:5 

Husbands are not to be worshiped or served, but submitted to and respected—yet only as "Unto the Lord" meaning, you are supposed to be doing this with the Lord on your mind and in your heart!

Mans moet nie aanbid word of bedien word nie, maar onderwerp en respekteer—tog net “Soos julle aan die Here onderdanig is” beteken, julle is veronderstel om dit te doen met die Here in jou gedagtes en in jou hart!

• "Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as unto to the Lord—Ephesians 5:22
• “Vrouens, wees aan julle mans onderdanig, net soos julle aan die Here onderdanig is—Efesiërs 5:22 
• "Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord—Colossians 3:18
• “Vrouens, wees aan julle mans onderdanig soos dit pas by mense wat in die Here glo—Kolossense 3:18

Not only is God jealous, since Jesus bought you with a price by dying for your sins. But He also created you for fellowship with Him. Yet what He is most concerned about, because it breaks His heart, is to see you USED and ABUSED because you continue to pursue this man.

Nie alleenlik is God jaloers nie, aangesien Jesus jou met ‘n prys gekoop het deur vir jou sondes te sterf. Maar Hy het jou ook geskape vir gemeenskap met Hom. Tog waaroor Hy meer bekommerd is, omdat dit Sy hart breek, is om te sien dat jy GEBRUIK en MISBRUIK word omdat jy aanhou om hierdie man agterna te sit.

“For their mother has played the harlot; she who conceived them has acted shamefully. For she said, ‘I will go after my lovers, who give me [what I need].

“Hulle moeder was ‘n prostituut, sy het swanger geword omdat sy haar skandelik gedra het. Sy het bly sê: “Ek gaan na my minnaars toe. Dit is hulle wat sorg dat ek brood en water, wol en vlas, olie en drank het.” 

“Therefore, behold, I [God] will hedge up her way with thorns, and I will build a wall against her so that she cannot find her paths. She will pursue her lovers, but she will not overtake them; and she will seek them, but will not find them. Then she will say, ‘I will go back to my first Husband, for it was better for me then than now!’" —Hosea 2:5-7

“Daarom gaan Ek haar pad versper met doringtakke en haar afkamp sodat sy nie haar planne kan uitvoer nie, en as sy dan haar minnaars probeer opsoek en hulle nie raakloop nie, hulle soek en hulle nie kry nie, sal sy dalk sê: “Ek sal na my eie man toe teruggaan, want ek was by hom beter versorg as nou.” —Hosea 2:5-7

Women who are desperate and cling to their husband "out of need" are the very ones that are vulnerable to being abused, used, and mistreated! Yes, our ministry is about restoring marriages, we want women to be WILLING to allow GOD to restore your marriage (remember that is the title the book you read—How GOD Can and Will Restore Your Marriage), but that is not the same as pursuing your lover when your FIRST love must be Him, the Lord your God.

Vrouens wie desperaat is en dan aan haar man vasklou “uit behoefte” is diselfdes wat kwesbaar is om misbruik, gebruik, en mishandel te word! Ja, ons ministerie is oor die herstel van huwelike, ons wil hê vrouens moet GEWILLIGLIK GOD toelaat om jou huwelik te herstel (onthou dit is die titel van die boek wat jy gelees het—Hoe GOD Jou Huwelik Kan en Sal Herstel), maar dit is nie dieselfde as om jou minnaar agterna te sit wanneer jou EERSTE liefde Hy moet wees, die Here jou God.  

Think about it this way…

Dink op hierdie manier daaraan...

Imagine a young girl who arrives in New York City by bus, and has no one and nothing. No one to protect her, no where to live and no money for food. Is she vulnerable to being used and abused? Of course she is!

Stel jou voor ‘n jong meisie arriveer in New York Stad by bus, en het niemand en niks nie. Niemand om haar te beskerm nie, nêrens om te bly nie en geen geld vir kos nie. Is sy kwesbaar om gebruik en misbruik te word? Natuurlik is sy! 

But what if that same girl had a Father who owned everything? Not only in New York City, but property everywhere? What if this same girl had a Husband who was the Son of a King? How vulnerable do you think she would be to being used and abused? She wouldn't!

Maar wat as daardie selfde meisie ‘n Vader het wat alles besit het? Nie net in New York Stad nie, maar eiendom orals? Wat as dieselfde meisie ‘n Man gehad het wie die Seun van ‘n Koning was? Hoe kwesbaar dink jy sy sou wees om gebruik en misbruik te wees? Sy sou nie! 

Now let's think about this…

Nou kom ons dink hieroor...

What if this same girl had a Father-in-Law who was a King and a Husband who was a Prince, and yet she RAN AFTER a some lowlife man who didn't want her? Would you think she was nuts?!?!? Of course you would, !

Wat as dieselfde meisie ‘n Skoonpa gehad het wat ‘n Koning was en haar Man wat ‘n Prins was, en tog het sy AGTER ‘n losbol man GEHARDLOOP wat haar nie wou gehad het nie? Sou jy gedink het sy was gek?!?!? Natuurlik sou jy!

Have you ever had your husband hug or hold you but you either still HURT inside or didn't FEEL loved? What if I told you that when you asked your New Husband to hold you, you wouldn't (necessarily) feel it on the outside, but on the INSIDE where it mattered?!

Het jy al ooit gehad dat jou man jou ‘n drukkie gee of vashou maar jy het nog binne SEER of het nie liefde GEVOEL nie? Wat as ek vir jou sê dat toe jy jou Nuwe Man gevra het om jou vas te hou, jy nie (noodsaaklik) dit aan die buitekant sou voel nie, maar aan die BINNEKANT waar dit saakmaak?! 

What if I told you that you could call on Him without using a cell phone, day or night, and He would be there to LISTEN and speak kind and loving words that counteracted any nasty text, email or phone call from the man who said he wanted out of your marriage and relationship?

Wat as ek vir jou gesê het dat jy Hom kon aanroep sonder om ‘n selfoon te gebruik, dag of nag, en Hy sal daar wees om te LUISTER en goedhartige en liefdevolle woorde met jou te praat wat enige gemene sms, epos of telefoon oproep  van die man wat uit jou huwelik en verhouding wil wees sal teenwerk

It's true because this is the way WE live!

Dit is waar want dit is hoe ONS lewe!

Not only are we incredibly LOVED but many of us are provided for by our Husband and are not working for our "income." We can't even explain HOW but we do know WHY. It's because we are His Bride and because we have put our trust in Him, our hope in Him, and because we LONG for Him above all else and anyone else.

Nie net is ons ongelooflik Bemin nie maar daar word vir baie van ons voorsien deur ons Man en werk nie vir ons “inkomste” nie. Ons kan nie eens verduidelik Hoe nie maar ons kan verduidelik HOEKOM. Dit is omdat ons Sy Bruid is en ons moet ons vertroue in Hom stel, ons hoop in Hom en omdat ons na Hom HUNKER  bo enige iets en enige iemand anders.

"Therefore the LORD longs to be gracious to you, and therefore He WAITS on high to have compassion on you For the LORD is a God of justice; How blessed are all those who long for Him"— Isaiah 30:18

“Tog is die HERE gretig om julle genadig te wees en wil Hy Hom oor julle ontferm: Die HERE is ‘n God wat reg laat geskied, en dit gaan goed met elkeen wat op Hom vertrou”—Jesaja 30:18

YES, dear abandoned and cheated one. We are blessed and want YOU to be blessed too!

JA, liewe verlate en bedriegde een. Ons is geseën en wil hê JY moet ook geseën wees!

Sure, people would think we're nuts, IF we told them. Yet a lesson you will learn very soon is about discretion. About keeping things to ourselves rather than what most people do that bring about opposition. We have learned to ONLY share how we live with those who find themselves in the very same emotional gutter we fell into by making so many mistakes—the main one was to worship our marriage and husband—ignoring the Man who had been trying to get our attention for YEARS.

Verseker, dink mense ons is gek, AS ons hulle vertel het. Tog ‘n les wat jy baie gou sal leer is oor diskresie. Om dinge vir onsself te hou eerder as wat meeste mense doen wat opposisie veroorsaak. Ons het geleer om ALLEENLIK te deel hoe ons lewe met die wat hulleself in dieselfde emosionele groef vind waarin ons geval het deur so baie foute te maak—die hoof een was om ons huwelike en ons mans te aanbid—en die Man te ignoreer wat al vir JARE probeer om ons aandag te trek.  

We were unfaithful to Him. We committed spiritual and emotional adultery for years and then were surprised when our earthly husbands were unfaithful to us.

Ons was ontrou aan Hom. Ons het spirituele en emosionele owerspel vir jare gepleeg en dan was ons verras toe ons aardse mans ontrou was aan ons.

Once we got a hold of this TRUTH and became His Bride, we began to be radiant with His love.

Toe ons ‘n greep gekry het aan hierdie WAARHEID en Sy Bruid begin word het, het ons gestraal met Sy liefde.

"They looked to Him and were radiant, and their faces will never be ashamed"—Psalm 34:5

“Dié wat swaar kry, sien op na Hom en straal van blydskap, hulle word nie teleurstel in hulle verwagtinge nie”—Psalm 34:5

And once we looked and became radiant, the change in us caught the attention of our earthly husbands because we were different and glowing!

En sodra ons gekyk het en gestraal het, het die verandering in ons die aandag van ons aardse mans gevang omdat ons anders was en gestraal het!

SADLY, it's very easy to fall for the same guy who once was mean and nasty to us. We see it all the time with our friends and we try to warn them. Once they have decided to let go, very soon, they are back worshiping the guy who doesn't deserve your friend, and all too soon he is even more cruel. Dear friend, this is you!

TREURIG, is dit baie maklik om vir dieselfde man te val wat eens op ‘n tyd gemeen en lelik was. Ons sien dit die heeltyd met ons vriende en ons probeer om hulle te waarsku. Sodra hulle laat gaan, baie gou, is hulle terug besig om die ou te aanbid wie jou vriendin nie verdien nie, en gou is hy weer gemeen en selfs meer wreed. Liewe vriendin dit is jy!

We care about you and have chosen to be HONEST with you when no one else would. Abuse, abandonment, cruelty and unfaithfulness is beyond an epidemic! GOD wants it to stop and the only way, THE ONLY WAY, is to take His hand and enter into His strong tower where we will be safe!

Ons gee om vir jou en het verkies om EERLIK met jou te wees toe niemand anders sou nie. Mishandeling, wreedheid en ontrou is ver verby ‘n epidemie! God wil hê dit moet stop en die enigste manier, DIE ENIGSTE MANIER, is om Sy hand te vat en binne sy sterk vesting te gaan waar jy veilig sal wees!

"The name of the LORD is a strong tower; the righteous runs into it and is safe"—Proverbs 18:10

“Die naam van die HERE is ‘n sterk vesting; die regverdige vind daar skuiling”—Spreuke 18:10 

All you have to do is to call out His name in your heart and find Him right there with you!

Al wat jy moet doen is om Sy naam in jou hart uit te roep en Hom daar reg by jou te vind! 

Sure, God instituted the union of marriage, but not the way marriages are now! No, we can't change men, but we can change ourselves, and in doing so, God will see to it that we are given not just respect, but HONOR! Just think about that!

Sekerlik, God het die unie van die huwelik ingestel, maar nie hoe huwelike nou is nie! Nee, ons kan nie mans verander nie, maar ons kan onsself verander, en deur dit te doen, sal God toesien dat ons nie net respek kry nie, maar EER! Dink net daaraan!

"You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered"— 1 Peter 3:7

“Mans, julle moet verstandig met julle vrouens saamleef. Bewys eer aan hulle as die swakker geslag wat saam met julle deel in die lewe as genadegawe. Dan sal julle kan bid sonder dat iets julle hinder”—1 Petrus 3:7

But this kind of honor is reserved for only SOME women. No, not because you are beautiful or charming, but only if you put the Lord first!

Maar hierdie soort eer is gereserveer net vir SOMMIGE vrouens. Nee, nie omdat jy beeldskoon of sjarmant is nie, maar net as jy die Here eerste stel!

"Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised"—Proverbs 31:30

“Uiterlike skoonheid hou nie, ‘n mooi voorkoms is nie alles nie; as sy die HERE dien, dán verdien ‘n vrou om geprys te word” Spreuke 31:30

The word "fear" is not really saying you are to be afraid of the Lord, but to be in AWE of Him. The word in Hebrew is יָרֵא yare' meaning to stand in awe of. And once you know Him the way we know Him, standing in AWE of Him is not only natural, but the only thing you can do—unless you fall on your face or are up dancing for joy!

Die woord “vrees” sê nie regtig jy moet bang wees vir die Here nie, maar ONTSAG vir Hom te hê. Die woord in Hebreeus is  יָרֵא yare' wat beteken om ontsag vir te hê. En sodra jy Hom ken hoe ons Hom ken, om ontsag vir Hom te hê is nie net natuurlik nie, maar die enigste ding wat jy kan doen—tensy jy op jou gesig val of op is en dans van vreugde!

But aren't you a RESTORATION ministry?

Maar is julle nie ‘n HERSTEL ministerie nie?

Aren't you trying to get marriages back together?

Probeer julle nie om huwelike weer bymekaar te kry nie?

YES, exactly! But from the very first marriage that was RESTORED, the one that began this ministry back in 1991, women saw their husbands' hearts turning back to them once they wanted THE LORD MORE than they wanted their husbands back or their marriages restored.

JA, presies! Maar van die eerste huwelik af wat HERSTEL was, die een wat hierdie ministerie in 1991 begin het, het vrouens gesien hoe hulle mans se harte terugkeer na hulle toe sodra hulle DIE HERE MEER wou gehad het as wat hulle hulle mans terug wou hê of hulle huwelike herstel.

Sure, there were a few who got restored in the flesh—their husbands and marriages were their main goal. But with these same women the only way to KEEP their husbands home was to take every bit of their flesh to keep him home and even more work to keep him happy!

Sekerlik, daar was ‘n paar wat in die vlees herstel is—hulle mans en hulle huwelike was hulle hoofdoel. Maar met hierdie vrouens die enigste manier om hulle mans by die huis te HOU was om elke bietjie van hulle vlees te vat om hulle by die huis te hou en selfs meer om hom gelukkig te hou!

The ONLY WAY is to go for the BEST Husband and stay faithful to HIM! And one more thing. Let me ask you a question to prove that God has already begun your Makeover….

Die ENIGSTE MANIER is om vir die BESTE Man te gaan en getrou aan HOM te bly! En nog een ding. Laat my jou ‘n vraag vra om te bewys dat God alreeds jou Doenoor begin het….

Have You Lost Weight?

Het Jy Gewig Verloor?

When women come to our ministry seeking our help one of the questions we ask is if they have lost weight. It may seem like a strange question, but it is actually a good sign we look for that indicates that the woman is indeed broken, and is open to our help.

Wanneer vrouens na ons ministerie toe kom en om hulp soek een van die vrae wat ons vra is of hulle gewig verloor het. Dit mag soos ‘n vreemde vraag klink, maar dit is eintlik ‘n goeie teken waarvoor ons soek wat dui daarop dat die vrou inderdaad gebroke is, en oop is vir ons hulp.  

The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and a contrite heart, O God, You will not despise—Psalm 51:17 

Die offer wat U wil hê, o God, is verootmoediging: U sal ‘n hart vol ootmoed en berou nie gering ag nie, o God—Psalm 51:17  

So, when you first came here, and you answered ,Yes, you'd lost weight, we want you to know it is a VERY GOOD sign and it's actually very GOOD NEWS. It proves that God has begun His MAKEOVER on YOU!!

So, wanneer jy eers hiernatoe kom, en jy het geantwoord, Ja, jy het gewig verloor, ons wil hê jy moet weet dit is ‘n BAIE GOEIE teken en is eintlik baie GOEIE NUUS. Dit bewys dat God Sy DOENOOR op JOU begin het!!

PROOF

BEWYS 

The saying "A picture is worth a thousand words" is true. Take a look at these before and after pictures of a few women who submitted new pictures so we could watch the transformation while God did His makeover!

Die spreekwoord “‘n Foto is werd ‘n duisend woorde” is waar. Kyk na hierdie voor en na fotos van “n paar vrouens wat nuwe fotos ingedien het sodat ons die transformasie kon dophou terwyl God Sy doenoor gedoen het! 

This member said, "The first picture of me that I submitted, each time I saw it I could see the deep sadness in my eyes (as that was at a time before God completely transformed me), the new picture  is just recent and it does show God all over me lol."

Die lid het gesê, “Die eerste foto van my wat ek ingedien het kon ek die diep hartseer in my oë sien (en dit was op ‘n tyd voordat God my heeltemal transformeer het), die nuwe foto is huidig en dit wys God oral oor my ha ha.” 

This member looks so completely happy now. 

Hierdie lid lyk nou heeltemal so gelukkig.

 This member is a new woman too. We can clearly see from her pictures that since she was not willing to get off the potter's wheel (she was homeless and asked no one but the Lord for help) can transform you not only on the inside but also what others see on the outside.

Hierdie lid is ook nou ‘n nuwe vrou. Ons kan duidelik uit haar fotos sien dat aangesien sy nie gewillig was om van die pottebakker se wiel af te klim nie (sy was haweloos en vir niemand maar vir die Here se hulp gevra nie) kan jou hervorm nie net van die binnekant nie maar ook wat ander aan die buitekant sien. 

Becoming Alluring

Word Aanloklik

Earlier in our books and videos we spoke about alluring your husband, based on Hosea 2:14:

Vroeër in ons boeke en videos het ons gepraat van jou man aan te lok,  gebaseer op Hosea 2:13 

“Therefore, behold, I will allure her, bring her into the wilderness and speak kindly to her."

“Tog sal Ek weer begin om haar die hof te maak. Ek sal haar na die woestyn toe bring en mooi dinge vir haar sê.”

What we've seen the Lord do is remove the burden of US having to allure OUR husbands, and instead cause OUR husbands to begin alluring US!! How can this happen? The verse:

Wat ons sien die Here doen is om die las van ONS te verwyder van ons wat ONS mans moet uitlok, en in plaas daarvan veroorsaak Hy dat ONS mans ONS begin uitlok! Hoe kan dit gebeur? Die verse:

“Therefore, behold, I will allure her, bring her into the wilderness and speak kindly to her"—Hosea 2:14 is actually the Lord speaking to us, you and me, as HIS bride! There is no way I can explain to you how much He LONGS to allure us, you and me, and remove all the "Baals" from our mouths. Baals signify anyone or anything we long for more than we long and want Him.

“Tog sal Ek weer begin om haar die hof te maak. Ek sal haar na die woestyn toe bring en mooi dinge vir haar sê” —Hosea 2:14 is eintlik die Here wat met ons praat, jy en ek, as SY bruid! Daar is geen manier wat ek kan verduidelik hoe HY daarna HUNKER om ons uit te lok, vir jou en vir my, en al die “Baäls” van ons monde te verwyder. Baäls dui enigiemand of enigiets waarna ons meer hunker as wat ons na hom hunker en Hom wil hê. 

“She will pursue her lovers, but she will not overtake them; and she will seek them, but will not find them. Then she will say, ‘I will go back to my first Husband, for it was better for me then than now!’" Because, "I have this against you, that you have left your first Love"—Revelation 2:4.

“Daarom gaan Ek haar pad versper met doringtakke en haar afkamp sodat sy nie haar planne kan uitvoer nie, en as sy dan haar minnaars probeer opsoek en hulle nie raakloop nie, hulle soek en hulle nie kry nie, sal sy dalk sê: “Ek sal na my eie man toe teruggaan, want ek was by hom beter versorg as nou!” “Maar Ek het dít teen julle: julle het My nie meer so lief soos in die begin nie”—Die Openbaring 2:4

Once we embrace the LORD and become faithful to HIM, exactly as you've wanted your estranged husband to want ONLY you, and not the other woman, then I promise He will turn your husband's heart back to you—not one moment before.

Sodra ons die HERE omhels en getrou word aan HOM, presies soos wat jy wou gehad het jou vervreemde man moet NET vir jou wil hê, en nie die ander vrou nie, dan belowe ek jou Hy sal jou man se hart omkeer terug na jou toe—nie een oomblik voor dit nie.